It’s Thursday and today I have a really big, actually ginormous topic for us today!
Are you familiar with the phrase, “the elephant in the room”?
Imagine some people in a room, with an elephant in the middle of the room, but no one wants to recognize that the elephant is there. The people in the room talk about a lot of things, but no one ever speaks of the elephant. Sometimes the people are forced to crane their necks to see other people in the room, because the elephant is in the way. When people get up, they carefully step around the elephant, because they don’t want to cause disruption. If anyone would try to bring up the problem of the elephant, others would either say, “What elephant?” or “I don’t want to talk about it.”
The elephant in the family room is a good picture of family secrets. Family secrets are not things that no one knows about; the family knows, and often others do too. But no one talks about them or even admits to them, especially outside the family. No one dares to suggest doing anything about them.